LIFE EXPECTS

Expectations never end usually. When we analyze the psychology of various stages of a human life, we may come to know that expectation of result is one of the factors which motivates everyone.  Expectation is not just what we expect from others but also what we expect from ourselves and what others expect out of us too.  Identifying our true potential helps us to put expectations on ourselves.

A new born baby doesn’t expect the outside world to be like this, so it’s difficult for it to accept the reality and thus it cries.  When the baby grows, its first expectation is from his/her mother, to provide milk, love, affection and care.  As a normal human tendency, there would be maximum expectation from the one who is most important in their life at that moment.  So it is for a child, because a child doesn’t know about the God, so mother is its almighty or the guardian instead.

When the child reaches the age of 3, it finds or identified the world filled with love, happiness, hatred and sadness.  It slowly starts grasping the habits, behaviors and character of its parents or guardians and they learn to adjust according to it.  Now it is true that even gender of the child has to do a lot with the range of expectations they have. Suppose if it is a boy, then he expects more from his mother and if it is a girl child, then she expects more from her father. It is a commonly seen case in a majority of families but there may be variations according to the situations in which the child has been brought up.

At the age of six, normally a child starts his/her academics and thus finds friends or classmates who have similar tastes and characters or someone with entirely different nature.  So they start expecting a lot from their peers or friends but do not realize whether the other being has the same kind of expectations over them or not.  Those who identify each other’s expectations and cope up with it are satisfied with each other and become strong friends. Some children are very selective, that is the reason why a child likes a teacher, hates the other and is not in good terms with another.  In these cases too, expectations plays a major role.  Both teachers and students expect something or the other from each other.

The child grows up to reach the age of adolescence, where he/she finds the world to be mysterious.  There comes a situation where it is difficult to accept the truth. There is a hike in their expectations on parents, neighbors, friends, relatives, etc.  This sometimes misleads children of this age as they expect more from the parents or guardian but doesn’t get it up to their expectations.  At the age of maturity, everyone expects a lot from the world.  But if they don’t get whatever they expect, then there will be a diversification in their life as they try to see the world differently.

A man expects a lot from his son or daughter, his wife and also his mother. Similarly a woman expects a lot from all her dear and near.  So expectation remains at every stage of life.  After becoming a grandfather or grandmother, a normal human being expects that their grandchildren should be good, healthy, studious, and energetic and also their son or daughter should look after them. But only a few have their expectations to be realistic.  In old age, people expect the world to be more helping, empathetic and courteous to them.  Expectations have no birth and death.  It is the only feeling that persists in all human beings.  No one can ever claim that he has no expectations on anything.  It is the expectation that makes a family and even breaks a family.

Identify that life expects from us and lets try to expect the least from life.  In this way you and I can find ourselves a step ahead on the ladder of success.